We are all guilty of it. The minute we see or hear an incoming text or notification, we feel the need to immediately read it and see who it is. It’s normal in this age of instant gratification, especially for our kids who would sleep with their phone next to them if we let them.

For me, while I want to make sure the text I am receiving isn’t anything urgent from my kids, I am most guilty of responding immediately to any work related text, email or call, no matter what time of day it is, even over the weekend. Don’t get me wrong. I have a strong work ethic as most of us do and there is nothing wrong with being driven and motivated, but what I’m referring to is drawing the boundary lines and defining those times when it is time to step away and know the work will be there when you get back to it.

For others, it can be things like checking social media notifications or texts from friends when they come in. Whatever it is on your phone that takes you away from what is most important in those moments where we truly should be full present is what we need to work on creating boundaries with.

As my kids get older, I realize more and more how precious the time I have with them is. Don’t get me wrong. I have heard some people say the relationships they have with their adult children are some of the best but, at that point, they have likely started living their own lives while you rediscover yours without kids. I’m talking about being present with them while they are still here.

As I get ready to gear up for another busy baseball season with my son, the reality sets in that this could be the second to last one we have with him. While both our jobs can be busy and demanding, we are blessed to also have the flexibility as parents to be able to attend most of his games. With our phones, we can check in on email or respond to texts but, for the most part, I really want to take that short window of time to really focus on him and being present for this time in his life.

I know it won’t be perfect and let’s face it, there may even be games I have to miss but this is just one example of really being intentional about trying to separate myself from the distractions that take away from what matters most, my family.

When it comes to other distractions, I try to set aside certain times to check social media and put up my posts. That allows me to know that I don’t have to feel like I need to log in every time I get a new notification.

Whatever it is that you are struggling to create boundaries with and disconnect from, know that you don’t have to be perfect at it but if you really commit to trying to get the separation you need for a healthy lifestyle, the more of a reality it can become. Now, time to log off and grab dinner with the family. Have a good one friends!